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Let’s focus our minds on the ‘N’ word for a moment and ask a few necessary questions…
Who does this word apply to?
Who does this word hurt?
How can we prevent this word from happening?
Why do we accept this word in our lives?
Now, before you answer you should know, I am not thinking of the dreaded ‘N’ word that only ignorant people and rappers say…
I’m talking about the lethal word ‘NEGLECT.’
This word applies to everybody.
This word hurts everyone.
There will always be some sort of neglect in our lives if we do not become more aware of it and be proactive.
We accept neglect because sometimes it is just easier to continue something, rather than change it.
Think about the neglect you have gone through in your entire life. Maybe it was a parent that didn’t pay enough attention to you? Perhaps a doll you wanted and did not get? A boy who never called you when he said he would? A college you didn’t get accepted to?
How did these life experiences affect you? Did you grow up and have serious daddy issues because your childhood wasn’t painted in gold? Did you lose all trust in men because one asshole screwed you over? Do you resent the life you live because you know your life would be so much better if you went to Harvard?
When are we going to stop playing the victim? Everyone is guilty of this. We neglect ourselves from reality because we are too busy throwing a pity party, instead of being proactive and changing our lives for the better.
So, you have to have that uncomfortable, shit’s-gettin-real, comin’ to Jesus meeting with yourself and ask ‘What am I neglecting in my life?’ Once you have that list in your mind, you have two follow up questions for each item: ‘What has happened because of my negligence, and how do I go about fixing this?’
Here is my current list (at least a few of them because it may get a little lengthy):
I am neglecting my body
I am neglecting my mind
I am neglecting my hair
I am neglecting some of my friends
I am neglecting reality
Okay… Now for the second round of questions… What has happened because of my negligence? And how in the hell do I fix this?!
Body: Problem- I have doubled my ass size and my boobs sag.
Solution- work out, stop drinking a keg of beer to myself, eat sensibly, and get a boob job.
Mind: Problem- I work a dead end job and am not meeting my mind’s potential,
therefore, some days my brain literally feels it is rotting.
Solution- quit the job, I swear I am going to walk out of if someone looks at me
cross eyed, and find something more challenging and rewarding!!
Hair: Problem- this bitch needs a haircut (at times I resemble a wet shaggy dog)
Solution- get a haircut
Friends: Problem- I do what I want to, when I want to do it and can be selfish with
Solution- give a little more and do things others want to, so I still have friends
when my boobs are even more saggy and beyond repair!
Reality: Problem- sometimes I think I am flying on a unicorn, sliding down rainbows,
living on candy cane island. I can be a dreamer to a dangerous extent.
Solution- put down the joint, put some Visine in my eyes, and snap out of it man!
(Just kidding… I wish I could blame miss Mary Jane, but this is all natural)
I need to put my feet on the regular ground, and continue dreaming, but to a
normal degree, so I quit disappointing myself over imaginary things in my mind.
Now, you make your list. Once again, be honest because you will only hurt yourself in the grand scheme of things.
This list is going to make you take responsibility for the things wrong in your life. Your life is no one else’s fault. Tragic things happen to amazing people every, single day. The ones who grow and strive from their tragedies, rather than bury them and neglect the issues, are the ones who truly live their lives. We should ALL envy the hell out of those people. I know I am not that strong at times. So, we all really need to put ourselves in check and gain some perspective.
For instance, the other day, I had some money issues happen to me. Then I had to talk to the insurance company 19 times. Then I had a shitty day at work. Then there was traffic on the high way, so I took the regular streets. Then a wreck happened in front of me, and I’m thinking ‘could this day get any worse?!!!!’.
As I’m blowing up the balloons and hanging the streamers for my HUGE pity party, a man gets off the bus and the entire right side of his face is covered, from hairline to chin, in bandages. He has a sleeping bag in his arms, hinting at the fact he is homeless. So I say to myself, ‘Wow, Stephanie! You are a real piece of work… you are bitching and complaining and nearly in tears because you had a few MINOR hiccups in your day?! That man is halfway blind, doesn’t have a home, let alone a roof for his bandaged head, and also has no money. Who in the hell do you think you are!?’ I was very disgusted with myself. I have a loving family that always has my back, I have friends who would jump in front of a bus for me, I have a job, have an abundance of love in my life, etc! My negligence of the world around me allowed me to feel sorry for myself and carry it through out the day! Up to the point of seeing that man, I thought I was having the worst day of my life! That man reminded me of how horrible things could really be. So what, your waitress brought you the wrong order… who cares if your nail chipped after paying $20 to have them done… big freaking deal you spilt wine on your wedding dress…
When you start to get out of line because of your negligence of reality, put yourself in check. Say to yourself ‘um… ma’am… who the FUCK do you think you are to act this way!?’ Is yelling at the bus boy going to change anything. Huh uh. That is just going to ensure that you have a much deserved loogie in your meal. Is being a ‘bridezilla’ going to make your wedding run smooth? Nope! People will just hate you and not show up (yea, that’s karma bitch!). Is blaming your father, who wasn’t around much, going to excuse the way you act? No way! You can only blame your parents until you are in high school; by then, you are old enough to know better!
Take responsibility for your actions and don’t take out your negligence on others! We all neglect things in our life. It is okay to be guilty. It can ALWAYS get worse, and probably will with that ugly attitude.
Just remember to constantly remind yourself how lucky you are and how incredibly beautiful your life is. It is a precious gift. Stop neglecting yourself from the things that will enhance this life. It's the only one we've got!
So, make your list! Be real! Fix your life! And for the love of God…….. someone get me a damn drink and some chips, because my diet starts tomorrow!