Communication Keys

Alright everybody--Good Morning, Aquarius Nation!!  I apologize, 1st and foremost for
being unable to post a new video as of yet.  It will be soon to come, I promise! 

In the meantime, I have been thinking a lot about what can best benefit our
seekers in their struggle to remain in the light.  Every one of us experiences
moments of miscommunication and can evolve our own communication skills with a
simple moment of introspection.  We are not generally taught how to communicate
as a culture--we are taught to talk and to listen, yet not in the most
successful ways possible.  

We all experience blocks, emotions, judgments, etc--all based on our individual
human experience and design.  When speaking, often:

• We want to be heard and listened to, but we don't always concentrate on the
  quality of our message or give the gift of our own attention.


• We want to be understood, yet we often fail to verify that our communication
  was successful.


• We want acceptance and agreement from others, and we often become consumed
  with having to be right or to prove our point; we ignore creating a greater
  outcome together.


• We want some kind of action or response from the other person, but we do not
  let them know what we really want or how to achieve it.


• We want to understand the message that the other person is communicating to
  us, yet our ability to listen is tainted by our perceptions of the person
  speaking and by the outcome we are looking to achieve. So, we often pass
  judgment on the speaker, evaluating the messenger rather than fully accepting
  the entire message.

Because of this, here are some questions to help you in ALL of your relations.  Ask
yourself when approaching communication:

1) Am I taking full responsibility for the message being heard by the other person? (Remember, it
doesn't matter what you say, it only matters what the other person hears.)

2) Did I respect the other person's point of view?

3) Did I have a reaction to what they said that prevented me from listening to their full message?

4)Did the other person feel heard and understood? Did I acknowledge them?

5) If I was asking someone to take a specific action, did I make my request clear?

6) Am I speaking in a way that the other person can understand? Am I communicating in a way that will make the other person want to listen?

7) Am I checking to see if the conversation was successful?

8) Was I communicating openly, without prejudices, expectations, or judgment? Or was I focused on having to be right or on having my point of view be accepted?

9) Did I leave the conversation with some value?

10) Did I allow the other person to contribute? Did I give the person the gift of my listening?

11) If the outcome of the conversation did not meet my expectations, did I learn how to better communicate with that particular person?

12) Did I open up a new and greater possibility that I didn't notice before?

Also, questions to ask yourself (and therefore others by osmosis):

1) How do I like to be communicated with?  Do I like things to be sugar-coated?  Alot of detail? 
Straight to the point?  Humor?  Am I sarcastic or stoic?

2) How do I like to be confronted?  How do I deal with confrontation?

3) How do I like to be dealt with when I am upset?  So I want to be touched and consoled?  Do I need
to leave the scene and return at a later time?

4) How do I like to receive criticism?

5)  How do I express what I want?  Do I try to manipulate the conversation to suit my needs?  Do I forgo my needs for the better of others?  Do I show my desires without directly stating them?

All in all, trust is of the UTMOST importance in all areas of communication.  Trust that the truth
will set you free and be received as such.  Be aware and compassionate and know that your words are powerful.  Choose them wisely, remain mindful and enjoy happy and healthy relationships all around you!